A couple of days ago at work I was pushing a steel cart down aisles of publications, collecting samples for an upcoming trade show. Not a difficult task, and I’ve done its like many times. I was under average time pressure. I felt average good, workaday version. It was an average day and I was doing average things… but trying to be somewhat better than average, without stressing too much over life in general.
Just a fairly simple task that still had to be done correctly, and with dispatch. And yet, around me hovered vague possibilities of anxiety, irritation, and physical unease, if I chose to let my spirit weaken a bit through lack of focus or simply catching an inappropriate mood. I only have to pull orders a few times a year nowadays. Most of the time I have other more specialized duties. So here I was doing this infrequent yet totally familiar job.
And a corner of my mind observed myself with this choice of: in-the-zone perfection, or some form of disharmony. And I was watching my movements a bit, to see if they were high quality, or careless and over-effort-ful.
And suddenly two simple words from taiji training rang in my being. “Relax completely”. And suddenly it really made sense for the first time.
We gotta do what we gotta do. Stand up, work, cook dinner, whatever. But most of us are reasonably lucky, no one’s shooting at us today. If no true crisis, we can do best by relaxing. Completely. Mind, body, spirit.
My spirits rose a big notch when I finally felt the true truth of “relax completely”. I had been a bit dense. I needed to lighten up. I saw that tension and effort had been hovering nearby me, ready to jump in and ”aid” me at a moment’s notice, if I started to sag a bit or conversely, get brittle. I didn’t need these hangers-on dogging my footsteps. I was perfectly capable. And the way to be more so was to relax. Completely.
It didn’t require me to flop down on a couch, or go get a massage, or take a nap. I could stand up, move around, take care of business. But in a sung way.
I felt some liberation. People can laugh if they want. I laughed too! And though the next couple of days were bitchin’ hot and I had ten thousand things to do, I managed to stay more relaxed. ‘Cause now I know what the standard is. Two simple. I always missed it before but now I might guess that relax is the yang, oddly enough. “Completely” is the yin.